The difference between being positive and being happy

Every so often, we need a reminder to remain positive.

Today, for me, that reminder came in the form of someone special telling me to stop doubting myself and to believe good things will happen because if I do, they will happen. Followed by, “and stop being so negative, I’m the pessimistic one, you’re supposed to be positive.”

I guess I do have a pretty positive outlook towards life most of the time. When I don’t feel so cheery about everything, it’s usually just a phase – often fuelled by crazy hormones or bad things happening that are out of my control. I’d say my biggest ‘weakness’ when it comes to being positive is self-doubt. Sometimes I feel on top of the world, like I can conquer anything. But I’ll have moments where I wonder if I’m good enough to do all the things I set out to do. It is during these moments of lowered confidence that I feel grateful to have such a wonderful group of loved ones who support me, and see the best in me no matter what. The best thing you can do in life is “surround yourself with the dreamers and the doers, the believers and the thinkers, but most of all, surround yourself with those who see greatness within you, even when you don’t see it yourself.”

Being positive isn’t the same thing as being happy – to be positive you don’t have to be happy 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. I’m a human, an emotional being, and there’s nothing wrong with giving in every once in a while and allowing myself to feel every type of emotion – sadness and doubt included. Being positive isn’t about blocking out the bad stuff – it’s about learning to accept it and move forward. It is focusing on the good and finding a way to change the negatives into positives. After all, you can’t appreciate being happy until you’ve been sad, or learn from mistakes until you face them. Accept, learn, move on! I have so many amazing things in life to be grateful for, so why would I choose to wallow in the bad instead of embracing the good? I’d have to be crazy to lose sight of everything I have and everything I am capable of achieving.

One does not need to be happy to be positive, but being positive will lead to happier life.

Keep moving forward!

Lots of love,

Jemma 

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Online Store of the Week: MISSGUIDED

Screen Shot 2014-08-23 at 11.00.03 amIf there’s anyone out there who reads my blog regularly, you may have noticed that I haven’t written about an online store for a couple of weeks. So far, I have written a few reviews; in some I include my own experiences but in others, where I am yet to buy from the store featured, I have simply analysed the store from the perspective of my studies (PR and marketing). Last week I bought from Missguided and decided to wait for my package to arrive before I reviewed the store.

The website itself is very easy to navigate and I loved scrolling through pages and pages of products! What frustrated me was the fact that there seemed to be a few “glitches” – i.e. things wouldn’t be added to my cart, or I couldn’t delete them from my cart once they were there. It took many, many tries and eventually just waiting seemed to do the trick. It was almost like the site needed to catch up to my clicks, which was very annoying!

I ordered the Charlene Roll Neck Cropped Jumper and the Kristyana Soft Knit Cropped Jumper. I needed a few last items to tie me over until the weather starts warming up in Melbourne, so these were perfect. Because I’m at uni I also received a cool 15% off the price of my items. If you haven’t already – check out UNiDAYS. University students receive access to discount codes from many different online stores, which is helpful for those of us trying to save money whenever we can!

I chose the free shipping option, which meant my package would arrive within 10 working days. This option doesn’t provide tracking, so if you wan’t a little extra security and less of a wait time – go for the $9 express shipping, which will arrive within 4 days of your purchase. My clothes arrived on the 10th day – yesterday – and I’d be lying if I said it hadn’t felt like forever since I ordered them.

The colours of the items matched the photos on the website exactly. If anything, they looked even better! Both were also very soft, comfortable, flattering and true to size. I often get very confused by size-guides on websites, but I was lucky enough to Screen Shot 2014-08-23 at 11.00.44 amonly have to choose between ‘S’ ‘M’ and ‘L’ with these items, so it was far easier to determine my size. I ended up wearing the Kristyana Soft Knit Cropped Jumper (left) for the rest of the day, and received loads of compliments! I don’t have a very colourful day-to-day wardrobe, so everyone (especially my mum) was impressed with the fuchsia knit. Overall, I am very impressed with the products themselves and the great discount added more enjoyment to my shopping experience. I even received a code for 10% off my next purchase in the package with my order.

Despite some minor website issues, my experience with Missguided was a big success. Not only am I thrilled with my purchases (I actually jumped for joy over how much I loved them), but I also know for certain that I will be shopping at Missguided again soon. I already have a whole list of items on my wish list!

Happy shopping everyone!

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Life According to Sam

So often we spend our time complaining about things. The things we don’t have, the things we don’t want to do, or the things that are hard. Below is a video of Sam Berns talking at TEDx MidAtlantic. In January of this year, Sam passed away from progeria, a rare “rapid ageing” disease. However, his life was not filled with suffering. It’s rare to see such honest positivity – Sam doesn’t deny that he has bad days, but instead chooses to focus on the good ones and keep moving forward. Remember Sam the next time you choose to manifest negativity instead of living your life to the happiest and fullest. I know I will!

Rest in peace, Sam.

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Recommended: 73 Questions

If you love celebrity interviews but get bored by the oh-so-typical question and answer process, these videos are for you. Created by VOGUE, these interviews are held in various locations (e.g. SJP’s house) and involve 73 random questions asked in an “unreasonably short amount of time.” The interview has a very relaxed and fun vibe which sets it apart from the rest, and probably has the most interesting “technique” I have ever seen (must be the inner journalism student in me). It feels like a very brief but action-packed conversation, and I love it! Check out a few of my favourites below.

P.S. I almost don’t want to acknowledge that Daniel Radcliffe is a real person because I consider him as being Harry Potter. Literally. Surely I can’t be the only one? Any other crazy HP fans out there?

Blake Lively

Sarah Jessica Parker

Daniel Radcliffe

Enjoy!

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Rest in peace, Robin Williams

Screen Shot 2014-08-12 at 11.48.51 am“Robin Williams was an airman, a doctor, a genie, a nanny, a president, a professor, a bangarang Peter Pan, and everything in between. But he was one of a kind. He arrived in our lives as an alien – but he ended up touching every element of the human spirit. He made us laugh. He made us cry. He gave his immeasurable talent freely and generously to those who needed it most”

 Rest in peace, Robin Williams

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Am I a skinny bitch?

“All About That Bass” is steadily making its way up the charts and if you haven’t heard it yet, I suggest you take a moment to listen (above). Not only is it catchy, but it’s all about self-love – a perfect combination for girls needing a little self esteem pick-me-up. As I was singing along the other day, I started to wonder, what about the “skinny bitches”?

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University Survival Guide

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Are you starting university next year, or a current student looking for guidance? Head over to First Year La Trobe for some tips, tricks and anecdotes from students currently studying at La Trobe University – including me! To read my posts on First Year La Trobe, click here.

Although the blog is targeted towards first years, the advice given by my fellow students is applicable to all stages of your university education, and to life-after-highschool in general! Hello, welcome to the real world! First Year La Trobe is a perfect read for anyone who is worried about making the transition next year, wondering what university is like or interested in studying at La Trobe.

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