So often we spend our time complaining about things. The things we don’t have, the things we don’t want to do, or the things that are hard. Below is a video of Sam Berns talking at TEDx MidAtlantic. In January of this year, Sam passed away from progeria, a rare “rapid ageing” disease. However, his life was not filled with suffering. It’s rare to see such honest positivity – Sam doesn’t deny that he has bad days, but instead chooses to focus on the good ones and keep moving forward. Remember Sam the next time you choose to manifest negativity instead of living your life to the happiest and fullest. I know I will!
How many times have you heard the phrase “don’t quit your day job”? It may be said as either a genuine concern, an insult or a joke – but no matter the context it still sends out a very negative message. It says “don’t try because you will fail” when in reality, the only sure way to fail is to never try at all.
Therefore, this post is a reminder to hold onto your dreams. For the majority of us, it is necessary to work in order to feed, clothe and shelter ourselves. But it’s also important to remember to never let anyone else influence you to let go of your aspirations. Your job may be necessary to your survival, but if you have a dream and a potentially viable way of achieving it, go for it. No one can tell you that it is wrong or stupid. To quote another overused phrase; “where there’s a will, there’s a way.” So many people give up when it becomes too hard or too much effort to achieve their goals and that’s why they discourage others. If you put in time, effort and passion – maybe you will be able to quit the job you hate, focus on your dreams and live a life less ordinary.
There are so many little things that brighten each day of my life. Yesterday, this was one of them:
Since starting this blog I’ve had quite a few people I know come up to me and say they enjoy what I’ve read or I have inspired them to start a blog about something they are passionate about. I couldn’t be happier when I hear this! Not only does it make me want to continue doing what I’m doing and constantly improve, but it washes away any doubts I’ve had. I have doubted myself because I know there are a tonne of judgemental people out there who may think “The World by J” and the things I write are stupid. It’s the people who seem to take pride in making mean, unprovoked judgements that I am wary of. Don’t get me wrong, everyone is guilty of being judgemental at times, including myself. However, I am confident in saying that my past harsh judgements have taught me lessons and I regret what I have said or done in certain situations. We’re all human, none of us are perfect and we learn from our life experiences.
Treating people how you want to be treated is the bottom line and it is something I am trying to always remind myself of. At the same time, it’s important to remember that the people who are secretly judging you or degrading you are jealous, scared or sad and their opinion is not your concern. Just do what you love and what makes you happy – for all you know everyone is actually cheering you on and admiring your courage!
In saying this, I’d just like to say a big, big thank you to the person above (you know who you are) and to every person who has encouraged me or read my blog posts – family, friends and strangers. It means a lot and I appreciate you taking a little time out of your day to click on my links and read what I have to say.
I recently saw this post on Tumblr and like to think of it as ‘proof’ that good can be taken from any bad situation.
“THIS IS YOUR DAILY REMINDER THAT KIM KARDASHIAN TOOK A MAN’S BETRAYAL OF HER TRUST AND TURNED IT INTO A MULTI MILLION DOLLAR INDUSTRY.
Seriously, this woman was betrayed and humiliated by someone she thought she could trust, had her personal life and sex life all over the internet, and rebounded to become one of the most famous people in our culture right now. You might say that Kim K and the Kardashians are “famous for nothing” but you have to have some respect for a woman who completely turned that situation on its head and rewrote the script to prioritise her own agency. Our culture doesn’t allow that for too many women, so let’s not forget how impressive that is.”
I definitely wouldn’t consider myself a huge Kardashian fan, but whatever your opinion, there is no denying the fact that using such a humiliating situation to her advantage and creating something positive for herself and her family was smart and courageous. In the toughest of times when we are feeling sad, lonely, embarrassed or filled with anger and despair, we often forget that “happiness can be found in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.” Yes, I just quoted Albus Dumbledore (I’m a big Harry Potter fan). At those times it seems like our pain will last forever, but it doesn’t, ESPECIALLY if initiative is taken to find the positive amongst the negative.
I suggest that the next time you feel like there is nothing you can do to fix or change your luck – think like Kim Kardashian, and “rewrite the script to prioritise your own agency.”
People often let themselves get caught up in the past or the future. The truth is – the past cannot be changed, and the future is yours to create. Learn to leave your past behind, keep your heart in the present and eyes on the future.
Each individual has the power to change their life purely through their thoughts. Unfortunately, so many use this gift (often without realising) in a way that causes them to perceive their present or future negatively. For example, “life is bad now because of a decision I made in the past” or “if I don’t succeed now, my future is doomed.” With all this worry and stress, people become unable to view their life in a positive light.
Personally, I believe the key to overcoming this mindset is learning to leave your past behind, keep your heart in the present and eyes on the future. What do I mean? Learn from your past but do not let it become a dark shadow over you. Do not let regret consume you. Be present. Life is happening NOW and each second spend thinking about the past or future (negatively) is time wasted. Lastly, keep your eyes on the future. Know what you want out of life and where you want to be in a number of years. However, once again, do not let thoughts and worry about the future be all-consuming. Failure is not the end of the world and sometimes life has surprises in store that we cannot foresee or prevent.
When one day in the future I look back on my life, I want to know that I lived ‘in the now’ and did not miss any precious moment or memory because I was worried or stressed. It’s not easy for some people to let go of their anxiety and ‘go with the flow.’ However, I believe slowly changing to a positive mindset that focuses on the present, is a step in the right direction.